There is a fine distinction between loving parts of a person and loving a person as a whole. It’s a difficult process, perhaps never fully achieved. One might fall in love with a partners humor, beauty, or intelligence, but to what degree is this loving the partner as a whole. This is a classic case of Klein’s object relations theory that plays a part in common sense and our everyday lives. To love one physical or intangible aspect of a person such as their wallet, the way they act around their dog, or one’s curves can easily be confused with loving the person as a whole. To truly love a person you accept everything about them: their fears, their dreams, their flaws. Love is complete with both passion and frustration, with passion outweighing the latter, the passion of enduring frustration. Ladies and gentlemen, let’s move past the superficial aspects and think about what it means before we drop the word love.
Graduated High School.Kissed someone.
Smoked a cigarette.
Got so drunk you passed out.
Rode every ride at an amusement park.Collected something really stupid.
Gone to a rock concert.Helped someone.Gone fishing.Watched four movies in one night.Gone long periods of time with out sleep.Lied to someone.
Snorted cocaine.
Failed a class.Smoked weed.
Dealt drugs.
Surfed a crowd
Said I love you when you didn’t really mean it
Said you didn’t love someone when you really did Taken a college level course.
Been in love with someone who was in love with someone else
Had to let go of someone even though you still love them
Dug up worms
Have pictures with someone who is no longer alive Been in a car accident.
Been in a tornado.
Done hard drugs (i.e. ecstasy, heroin, crack, meth, acid).Watched someone die.Been to a funeral.Burned yourself.
Did dirty things with someone while someone else was in the room
Sexted
Found out a secret about someone that you weren’t supposed to knowRan a marathon.Cried yourself to sleep.Spent over $200 in one day.
Thought about committing suicideFlown on a plane.
Cheated on someone.
Been cheated on.Written a 10 page letter.Gone skiing.
Been sailing.
Cut yourself. might i add, not purposely
Had a best friend.Lost someone you loved.Shoplifted something.
Been to jail.
Dangerously close to being in jail.Had detention.Skipped school.Got in trouble for something you didn’t do.
Stolen books from the library.Gone to a different country.
Dropped out of school.Been in a mental hospital.Watched the “Harry Potter” movies.
Had an online diary.
Fired a gun.
Gambled in a casino.
Had a yard sale.
Had a lemonade stand.
Actually made money at the lemonade stand.Been in a school play.Been fired from a job.
Taken a lie detector test.
Swam with dolphins.Gone to sea world.Voted for someone on a reality TV show.Written poetry.
Read more than 20 books a year.
Gone to Europe.Loved someone you shouldn’t have.
Cheated on a test
Lied to a best friend straight to their face
Wondered about your sexuality.Used a coloring book over age 12.
Had surgery.
Had stitches.Taken a taxi.
Seen the Washington Monument.Had more than 5 IM’s/online conversations going at once.
Overdosed.
Had a drug or alcohol problem.
Been in a fist fight.Suffered any form of abuse.Had a hamster.Petted a wild animal.Used a credit card.
Gone surfing in California.Did “spirit day” at school.Dyed your hair.
Got a tattoo.Had something pierced.Got straight A’s.Been on the Honor Roll.
On the phone with someone for more than 6 hours
Have secrets that nobody knows about
Wear an ex’s clothes
Cried tears of joy Known someone with an STDTaken pictures with a webcam.Started a fire.
Gotten caught having a party while parents were gone away.
Had Beer.
Smoked an entire cigarette.
Done drugs.
Write on a bathroom wall.
Read a George Orwell book.Had a physical fight.
Used Twitter.
Listened to Lady Gaga.
Been in a car accident.Gotten suspended.
Gotten expelled.
Been allergic to something.
Got a computer virus.Touched a real gun.
Had a dog.
Had a cat.Been pregnant.
Camped out.
Swam in the ocean.
Wore a bikini.
Driven a car.
Been sent to the principal.
Ever liked someone.Failed a class.
Failed a test.
Went to summer school.
Got worse than a D.
Got A’s, A’s and B’s.
Read an entire book.Recorded my own music.
Had an xbox.
Worn heels more than 3 days in a row.Wore fishnets.
Wore skinny jeans.
Hated someone.Been cheated on.
Cheated on someone.
Worn makeup.
Lied to my parents about where I was going.Had surgery.
Had my license.
Been to college.
Graduated high school.
Worn colored contacts.
Painted my nails black.
Broken someone’s heart.
Had my heart broken.
Cried for an hour straight.
Lost something very valuable.Got separated from one of my parents as a kid.
Broken a bone.
Gotten stung by a bee.
Eaten something bad/expired.
Threw up from being so drunk.saw someone throw up from being so drunk.
Danced with someone of the opposite sex.
Owned an ipod.
Owned an iphone.
Fell for a best friend.Went far away from home for more than a week.
Moved out. … does moving out for uni count?
Ran away.
Had food poisoning.
Had a job.
Been fired.
Lied to a friend.
Lied to a family member.
Had a Facebook.Posted a video on YouTube.
Started a rumor about someone.
Talked bad about someone.Dropped out of school.
Deliberately failed a test.Been skinny dipping.
Counted to a million.
Counted to a thousand.
Ate rabbit meat.
Ate duck meat.
Had fast food.
Been to Church.
Been to Canada.Been married.
Had a divorce.
Broke a glass.
Hugged someone today.
Texted someone today.
Received a phone call today.
Threw something out of the window.
Ignored a text from someone on purpose.
Had my feelings hurt by a friend and never told them.
Wish you were somebody else.
(Source: violentskulls, via tofumike)
